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Connecting is vital to our health and wellbeing. It is well researched the impact that isolation and loneliness has on our health and wellbeing. However, when we talk about connection, we often just think about connecting to others. But connecting is much more than that, it\u2019s about being connected to ourselves and connected to a higher purpose. 
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This is important to remember during times when we may be more isolated from others. Maybe you moved to a new city, or a new country, or just started a new job and you don\u2019t have a lot of connections to the people around you. Or during this global pandemic, in which many of us are practicing social distancing and can\u2019t see loved ones.
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There are always external factors that will be outside of our control which impact our lives. And there will always be times in our lives that we feel isolated. But that doesn’t mean we can\u2019t find connection in other places or in different ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to find more connection in your life<\/strong>
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There is connection everywhere if you look for it. Being connected is not just a social phenomenon. Being connected starts with yourself, and with the world around you. If you\u2019re feeling isolated and noticing the toll it\u2019s taking on your health and wellbeing, try to think about ways you can connect with yourself, a greater purpose, and prioritize the relationships you do have around you.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Connect with yourself<\/strong>
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We hear the importance of self love all the time. But how many of us actually take the time to self reflect and pay attention to what makes us happy? The first step to take when you\u2019re feeling isolated is to really incorporate self care into your routine, and treat your connection with yourself like you would for others. Prioritize your wellbeing every day, put aside time in your schedule to reflect and do what makes you happy.
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The first thing you can do is to reflect. Do this in a way that feels manageable to you. This may be a few minutes of journaling every night, or a short meditation when you wake up in the morning. Or it may be just checking in throughout the day while you\u2019re working. Have you gotten out of your chair in the past few hours for a short break? Do you have a headache because you didn\u2019t eat breakfast? Find a way to check in with yourself every day.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Do what makes you happy<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Going along with that, pay attention to how you feel when you are doing different things. Are you refreshed when you go for a walk outside? Do you come back from a bike ride feeling happy? Do you love sitting down with a good book? Do you get excited when you cook a good meal?
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Find ways to modify your stress, which we talked about in this blog<\/a>. And learn about the ways that spending time in nature can relieve stress and increase happiness and productivity in this blog<\/a>.
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Find the things that make you happy and do them more. <\/em>
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It sounds so simple but so many of us don\u2019t take the time to reflect on how we feel in the moment. By taking a step back and figuring out what you like to do and what makes you feel your best you\u2019ll gain a much stronger connection to yourself.
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Connect with a purpose<\/strong>

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Pour your energy into a passion or a higher purpose. When you are more in tune with yourself, this will be easier to find. Reflect on what makes you light up inside. This could be a sport, a lifestyle, a career path. Dedicate time to learning about this- read books, research, practice, listen to podcasts, start a blog. This is incredibly important to feel connected. Something that\u2019s larger than just yourself or the people around you. It\u2019s about something you believe is important in the world.
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Try to find a group or community that has that same passion. Finding a group that you identify with can help you massively with feeling like you have a sense of purpose and people to connect with. This could be an internship, a student organization, a sport, a job, a networking group.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This study<\/a> explores our inherent desire to belong to a group even when we are babies. Belonging to a group of like-minded people helps us feel a sense of belonging and connection.
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Connect with others<\/strong>
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Finally, connecting with others on a deeper level is incredibly important for our health. A social network can help us process our emotions when we\u2019re going through hard times, and provide us company to share experiences with.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It\u2019s easy to get caught up in your career and not have time for the friends or family members around you. Maybe you have a high pressure job or you are taking care of kids at home, you may feel like you have no time to go to dinner with your friends. 
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But in the same way that we prioritize our work and our responsibilities we need to prioritize what is good for our wellbeing, and that includes putting the work down sometimes to spend time with those around us. 
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In times when we really don\u2019t have the time to do this, or during this pandemic when we often aren\u2019t able to see a lot of people in our circle, we can find other ways to connect.<\/em> 
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Luckily we don\u2019t have to be with people in person to feel connected. We can call or video call them, even if they are across the world. Bring back other forms of communication- try sending a longer email, writing a letter, or sending a postcard. Get creative- know that just because you can\u2019t see someone in person doesn\u2019t mean they can\u2019t remain in your life. Set aside time in your routine for your friends or family and make this a priority.
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It\u2019s important to note that feeling isolated and lonely is extremely common. It\u2019s something we all face at one point in our lives. And our mental health isn\u2019t something to take lightly. There are times when you need professional help. If you feel like you can\u2019t find a way to get out of a negative headspace, be open to those around you about how you are struggling and consider reaching out to a professional. 
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Here are some resources to consider, depending on your needs:
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